Created to Be His Help Meet ~ Chapter 9

“If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” James 1:5
What a wonderful verse! I know I desperately need wisdom in becoming the wife and mother I strive to be, and I also realize I would never get it in and of myself. Thankfully God has promised to give wisdom to anyone who asks!!
Find your life in his.
Those are just five words, but oh what wisdom and challenge they hold! As I’ve mentioned before I lived in the same house from the time I was born to the time I was married at the age of 19. I grew up within minutes of both grandparents and 95% of the rest of my extended family. Birthday and holidays were filled with all kinds of relatives and celebrations. I deeply, truly love Wyoming and the mountains and the West.
I never, ever expected, or wanted, to be a career military spouse. I wanted to live in Wyoming, raise my kids close to where I grew up so they could know the same closeness with their grandparents and extended family that I did growing up. I wanted to be able to take them camping in the summer, hunting in the fall, and skiing and sledding in the winter. I wanted them to go to the same church where I was saved, baptized, graduated, and got married.
When we were dating and Bob was considering the military I fought him tooth and nail. I told him I was absolutely not marrying a Marine. Finally he decided to join the Coast Guard and I decided that was acceptable. He could serve 4 years, get it out of his system, and then go work for his Dad in the Sherrif’s department in the towns we grew up in and we’d all live happily ever after.
Obviously, that’s not how our lives played out. But truthfully I’m a very happy and proud military wife. It didn’t happen automatically. When Bob told me he was getting back in for good I can’t say I smiled and was just all giggles about it. But with God’s help I’ve learned to let go of how I wanted my life to play out and instead accept what is best for my husband, best for my family, and what God’s will is for our life. As I mentioned earlier in this study, there are still times I really struggle. There are still times when I find out we might be moving somewhere and I rant and rave and pout. With God’s help, though, I’m happy to say that the majority of the time I’m happy and content. It would be far too easy for me to put on a “oh woe is me” attitude. I miss my family, I miss my friends. I’ve been living for the past 3 years in an area I don’t really enjoy and we haven’t been able to find a supportive church family. My only friend here moved away, and now I have no one to baby sit, no one to go visit, no one to help or recieve help from. Because I’ve been moving every 2 years since I got married no where has felt like home and I feel like as soon as we unpack boxes and start getting settled in and finally start making friends we’re leaving again. Although I have been lucky up to this point in not having him  Trust me, if I wanted to I could be quite dismal and depressed.
But I’m not! We have had a very nice place to live in here, the beaches are beautiful, I really enjoy my OB, I recently joined a playgroup and am starting to meet other moms, I keep in touch with everyone back home over the phone, Facebook, and email. Because I have no one to lean on, I lean fully on Bob which has made us closer and stronger as a couple. Even if I don’t like the place we live, I know because of our lifestyle we won’t be stuck anywhere for good. I enjoy getting to see the United States and experience living in new and exciting places I’ve never even visited before.
Slowly, but surely, I’m learning to find and embrace my life in Bob’s. Are you doing the same for your marriage?

Break out the blue….

Because it’s a BOY!!!!!!!
When I was pregnant with Amber I just knew I was going to have a little girl. This time I was sure I was pregnant with a boy, and sure enough I am! We’re so excited to have one of each now! I have a feeling this baby is going to take after his Daddy. During Amber’s ultrasound she was crazy, wiggling and running away from the wand and didn’t stop moving her mouth “talking” the whole time. This baby just wiggled a little and kept his hands up by his face the whole time, as if to say “Hey leave me alone!” It was cute 🙂
Everything looks great, Yey for that!!! He’s only in the 35 percentile right now, so I’m hoping he grows fast. 🙂 That’s just fine but I would hate to have a little bitty boy and a huge girl, haha!
Amber did really well though she did get a little fussy towards the end. She kept saying “Baby sister!” Guess it’s just easier to say than brother, lol! We’re working on that though 🙂
So excited to meet our little man!

Far Away Friends and Books

I’m constantly amazed at all that technology today allows us to do. Because of Facebook I’m able to stay in touch with everyone back home and other people I haven’t seen or talked to since elementary school! Ever since starting my business and joining several Christian Mom’s Business sites such as Christian Moms Business Resource (formerly Really Working From Home), Living My Moment, Mommy Perks, and Mom’s United In Business online friendships have taken on a whole new dimension. People that I’ve never met in “real life” are quickly becoming my fast friends. I talk to many of them on a daily basis through Facebook and Twitter. We enter each other’s giveaways and comment on each other’s articles.
Through one of these sites I found Donna’s blog and started following her, or vice-versa. I can’t really remember now. I thought her books looked adorable and thought her blog was a good read as well. We never talked, just followed each other through the blog world.
When Donna read my post about Amber turning 2 (no doubt noting the part where I talked about her loving books and not being crazy about toys) she left me the sweetest comment about it and said that she wanted to send Amber one of her books as a birthday gift. It touched me so much that someone I’d never met or even really talked to would make such a sweet and thoughtful gesture!
A few days later Orville Wright Caterpillar appeared at our house. Donna had written the sweetest note inside to Amber and autographed it, and it’s just about the cutest books ever! It’s about this adorable little caterpillar who wishes he could fly, and by getting saved and following God’s leading he’s able to do just that 😀 So sweet!
Thanks so much Donna, and all of my far away friends who mean so much to me, even though I have never met you!!!

Shushybye Sleepover Surprise *Giveaway & Review*

***This giveaway is now CLOSED congrats to windycindy who won***
As I’ve mentioned several times now Amber loves books! So anytime we get a new book she gets all sorts of excited! The Shushybye Sleepover Suprise was no exception! Although it’s just the tiniest bit above her reading level the cute story and funny characters kept her attention through most of the book. It makes a great bedtime story and teaches the lesson of being a good friend and doing nice things “just because”.
We also received a copy of the Close Your Eyes Cd. Amber really liked it and whenever she sees the case she asks for “More more musik?” It was more upbeat and peppy than I was expecting for a “close your eyes” cd but Amber loves to dance around to it! (maybe it’s trying to tire them out for bedtime!!!) And the last song is a nice lullabye.
There’s even a Shushybye Dream Band! You can find their tour dates, along with the book and cd, on the Shushybye Website.
One lucky reader will win their very own Shushybye Book and CD!
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Online Poster Printing *Giveaway*

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For last Christmas I got a ton of Digital Photos on Posters made for my family and gave them as gifts. They were all thrilled with them! Online Poster Printing has amazing quality Digital Photo Enlargements and they would make an amazing gift or piece of art for your home!
With my poster I plan on either getting another Wyoming photo blow up to hang in my home, or I might use it and make a one of a kind piece of artwork for our new babies nursery. 🙂 Either way I know it will be wonderful!
Online Poster Printing is giving one lucky read the chance to win a 18×24 Poster Print!
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Tuesday Tunes ~ I Can Only Imagine

Ok so I’m having some serious Mommy/Pregnancy brain today and cannot remember if I’ve posted this as a Tuesday Tune before. I tried to go back and look, but as you know I’m a blogging fool so wasn’t able to tell, lol.
In any event, this is one of the all time best songs ever, so even if I have before, it’s good to think about it again!!! I love the lyrics, every time I really stop and listen to them they make me want to cry. So awe inspiring!! I would love for this to be played at my funeral someday (happy thought right? LoL!!!)
But anyways, even if you’ve heard this song a billion times I hope you’ll still take the time to read through it and really think about the words!
I Can Only Imagine
By Mercy Me
I can only imagine
What it will be like
When I walk
By your side
I can only imagine
What my eyes will see
When your face
Is before me
I can only imagine
Surrounded by Your glory, what will my heart feel
Will I dance for you Jesus or in awe of you be still
Will I stand in your presence or to my knees will I fall
Will I sing hallelujah, will I be able to speak at all
I can only imagine
I can only imagine
When that day comes
And I find myself
Standing in the Son
I can only imagine
When all I will do
Is forever
Forever worship You
I can only imagine

The Coupon Mom

I’d like to think of myself as a “frugal minded” person. I always try to keep our family within our budget, don’t spend money on unnecessary things, and never buy clothes or makeup unless they’re needed and on sale.
I have a confession to make though.
I don’t cut coupons!!
*Collective gasp from the audience*
Yes, I know, I know! Shame on me! The whole prospect has always overwhelmed me a little bit. I throw out the same excuses everyone else does I’m sure “It’s took much work, it won’t save that much, after paying for the paper and/or ink is it really even worth it? If I buy generic wouldn’t it save me more money anyways? Even when I get them I forget them at home so what’s the use?” On and on it goes.
Some of these I know are just excuses, others are legitimate questions I have. With us moving back to the high living cost of the big city though, I know I need to seriously reconsider. I’m thinking about having a Coupon for Dummies: 101 course on here and asking my frugally coupon-ly minded friends to help me out! If you’d be interested let me know!
In the meantime I was introduced to the coolest site ever!!!
Coupon Mom is an amazing website set up to help dummies like me, and even experienced clippers! There’s also a web series that’s going on right now, where they’re posting new episodes each Thursday where she’ll teach a new aspect of how to use coupons to save a bundle.
The episode below was the one that really interested me and made me want to share all this information with you. I hope you’ll check it out and you’ll find it as interesting as I did! I just may be a convert 🙂

Created to Be His Help Meet ~ Chapter 8 (My favorite!!!!!!)

Chapter 8
First of all I’d like to apologize for this being a day late. Yesterday was a crazy day for me! Hubby was sick so that left me to get myself and Amber to church, and then we had a good friend over who will be deploying in a few days. Please keep Nate and his family in your prayers as he has a 3 year old daughter and a 6 month old son and will be in Afghanistan for the next 8 months. My good friend Lara is going to need all the prayers she can get!!!
But onto today’s chapter. As I said last week this is my very most favorite chapter in the whole book!!! The first time I read it a huge light bulb went off in my head and I was like, “Oh!!! I get it now!!!” For those of you who don’t have the book (but by now you totally should 😉 go buy it!! LoL) the chapter talks about how all men basically fall into 3 categories: Command Man, Mr. Visionary, or Mr. Steady. Every man will be a little of each but most men tend be one predominately, or perhaps a good mix of 2 of the categories. It describes what the men in each category is like and then how you can be the best wife possible if your hubby falls into that group.
My hubby is 99.9% Mr. Visionary!!! I have tons of the sections dealing with this highlighted and underlined. Here are just some of them:
“They love confrontation and hate the status quo”
“Every Mr. Visionary needs a good, prudent, stable wife who has a positive outlook on life”
“If you are married to one of these fellows expect to be rich or poor, rarely middle class…He will not do well working 8 to 5 in the same place for thirty years, and then retiring to live the good life”

“And once get it into your head that your husband does not have to be “right” for you to follow him, you will FINALLY be able to say “bye-bye” to your overwrought parents, even when they are screaming that you are married to a crazy man.”
“Mr. Visionary needs a lady who does not take offense easily. She needs to be tough. He needs his lady to be full of joy and life. A Visionary Man is not equipped to be a comforter–for himself or anyone else. His lady will need to learn to tuck in that quivering lip, square those shoulders, and put on that smile.”
These are just a small few of the portions I have highlighted, happily she spends a lot of time talking about the Mr. Visionary!!
If I hadn’t known better I would have thought all the things above were written about Bob and Me and our relationship!! With a Dad who is half Mr. Command Man and half Mr. Steady (more on that later) my marriage to my Mr. Visionary totally threw me for a loop at first. As I’ve mentioned before I spent the first 19 years of my life living in the same house, and my Dad has been working the same job for the past almost 30 years now! I was expecting to marry someone, buy a house, get settled in and raise my family near my own family in Wyoming.
At first I thought the military thing was a phase, that once Bob did his 4 years he’d get out and we’d do just that. Happily ever after 8-5 for the next 30 years.
Obviously that’s not what happened!!! During that crazy time last year this book helped me get through more than anything! It helped me to realize that my Mr. Visionary hubby would be completely miserable if I tried to pressure him into a Mr. Steady job for my happiness. I accepted the fact that God made him to love change and new things, to always want to try something else, somewhere else. I also realized that since we would most likely be picking up and moving constantly anyways, the military was the perfect answer. In the military we get to move every few years, my hubby’s job is constantly changing and keeping him interested, and we’re doing it all on the government’s dime-not our own!!! This has given me more comfort and peace than anything and why I can smile about our upcoming move to Boston and call it an adventure…it’s because it’s just that!!
I’ve decided that instead of bemoaning the fact I am married to a “crazy man” who gets all sorts of half-cocked ideas and drags us about the country side, I will delight in the fact that my husband is one of the most “loveable” ones. He enjoys my friendship, is not overly demanding of me, and just wants me to be his companion.
A few other distinct light bulb moments happened in this chapter too. Whenever I’ve gotten sick Bob is great as first, but after about a day he acts like he’s uncomfortable and almost even irritated at me for being sick. This used to make me furious. I mean, how on earth is it my fault that I’m sick?! He was supposed to be comforting and pampering me, not getting mad! When I read about Mr. Visionary not being a comforter it made a bell go off. I was like, “OH! So it’s not just because he’s a huge jerk when I’m sick (LoL).” So now when I want to get mad, I just remind myself that me being sick makes him feel helpless and uncomfortable, not because he’s a jerk, but because he’s not equipped to deal with it.
These are just some of the things this chapter has made me realize and apply to my life.
It’s actually helped me in my relationships with the other men in my life as well. As I mentioned before my Dad is an odd mix of a Mr. Command Man and a Mr. Steady. He’s mostly a Command Man, but has never wanted or desired a position of leadership outside of the home. Because of this, and the fact he has worked the same job for 30 years, been married to my Mom for over 25 years, and only lived in 2 houses I think he has a good bit of Mr. Steady in him as well. One thing that always drove me nuts about him is that he would always order everyone around. Even if you were on the opposite side of the room, and he was sitting down he would tell you to go get him the remote..even if it was closer to him! This just irritated me to no end. It was as if he was lazy, but that never made sense because he’s one of the very least lazy people I’ve ever met and an extremely hard worker. As I was reading about the Command Man I thought “That’s Dad!!! That’s why he always ordered us around!” It explained so much to me!
I’ve also discovered that my brother is mostly a Visionary, and this has explained to me why he and my Dad tend to clash so often. They’re wired completely opposite of each other!
Lastly I just thought it was interesting to see that my father-in-law is a strong mix of Mr. Command Man and Mr. Visionary. All I have to say to that is bless my mother-in-laws heart!!!!!!!!! LoL!!!!
I hope that this chapter will help and bless you even a tiny bit as much as it has me. And if you’re following along please let me know what kind of man you’re married to! 🙂 As always, any feedback, comments, suggestions, and questions are very much desired! 🙂

The Spoiled Mama *Giveaway and Review*

***This Giveaway is now CLOSED Congrats to Kimberly who won***
When you get pregnant, especially for the first time, your whole world becomes radically different, even before the baby arrives! Where you used to be the center of attention when you were around, suddenly it’s all about the baby. I remember when I was pregnant with Amber and for my birthday and Christmas several people got me Baby stuff…as their gift for me. Now, don’t get me wrong…I was thrilled to have Amber and thrilled over all the little frilly stuff, but when I saw a b-day present addressed to me I was expecting, well, something for me.
Happily at my shower I got several pampering “just for ME” gifts! I can’t tell you how much this meant to me, to be reminded that yes, everyone was thrilled about the baby, but I still mattered too!
That’s why I loooooove The Spoiled Mama. They know that to “spoil the baby in you” a big part of that involves spoiling you! And boy if there’s ever a time you need to be spoiled and pampered, it’s during pregnancy and when you have a newborn!!!
I was SO excited to receive the Pampered Mama Gift Box. I felt like I was getting a super special shower gift because of the amazing packaging it came in! And I honestly can’t think of a gift I’d love more!!!
I adore the Cocoa & Shea Tummy Butter for Stretch Marks. It’s super moisturizing and smells so good! Although I haven’t been using it long enough to see if it will make a difference, I would use it just for the moisture even if it didn’t!
The Mojito Mama Sugar Scrub was my other favorite! I’ve always loved anything exfoliating. There’s just something about scrubbing all the dead skin off that makes me feel so invigorated and energized! This scrub is amazing because it exfoliates, but then the sugar melts away and it leaves oil that soaks in and softens your skin as well. It takes me as close to a spa-like experience that I’ve had in a long, long while!
The third pampering element in my fabulous box was the Bump Gloss Stretch Mark Oil. Although I actually preferred the Tummy Butter, I still really liked this product. It absorbed really quickly, and left my skin feeling moist, all without being greasy or too oily.
Anything from the site would make a perfect gift for a mom-to-be or a new mother! They have several other collections, such as a Breastfeeding Collection and a Postpartum Collection!
So are you seething with jealousy yet? Well don’t worry, you get a chance to get some of these wonderful products for yourself! The Spoiled Mama is giving one lucky reader the chance to win some of their wonderful products!
So what can you do to win this fabulous prize?
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Double Trouble by Susan May Warren *Review*

I’m sure you all remember me posting about the great Double Trouble Contest that’s going on right now! If not, go check it out!!)
Double Trouble is fun, quirky, and full of laughs. It reminded me a lot of a Janet Evanovich novel I read, except because Double Trouble is written from a Christian perspective, I enjoyed it much, much more! PJ is a walking magnet for trouble, and her job as a PI doesn’t exactly help! I believe this is the second book in the series, and after reading it I would very much like to, and am planning on, going back and reading the first novel, and also the next book that’s going to be released. The characters are unique and endearing, Susan’s style is fresh and easy to read, and I found myself smiling through pretty much the entire book!
So if you are looking for a fun, refreshing twist to the typical Christian romance, I would highly recommend Double Trouble!
If you’d like to hear what other bloggers think be sure to check out their reviews!
A big thanks to litFUSE for providing me with this wonderful book to review!