I feel that this chapter couldn’t have come at a more perfect time! When I first broached the idea of doing this study I explained what the book was like and about and gave a little bit of a “disclaimer” (you can see that post here
) I think when I started the study I had less than 50 followers though (wow to that, you are all amazing by the way, thanks for reading my stuff!!!!!!!) so I know many/most of you probably didn’t see that. As a result after I’ve been asking for feedback lately I’ve been getting it, but not really the kind I meant. LoL!!! Although I’m more than happy to discuss topics with any of my readers, the whole reason I decided to do this study each week was to help and encourage those Christian wives whose opinions were already
in line with what the book teaches, and just needed guidance. (And by the way I’d like to point out that this is something I decided to do all on my little lonesome. I do get books to review from time to time but this is not one of them, I personally owned this book, have bought it as a gift for several girls, and just really wanted to share it with you).
That being said this chapter does a wonderful job of explaining exactly what I, this book, and the Bible all mean when we talk about submitting to your husband. In today’s culture submission is almost a curse word you’d think. It’s like me just saying it makes most women’s hair stand on end and picture women dressed all in black with only their eyes showing or something. I love this quote from the book:
“So is a woman a second-class citizen of the kingdom? Is she to be a subdued, brow-beaten servant to the male species? Certainly not! What the Bible teaches will not put women back into the Stone Age, nor will it turn us into a bunch of Muslim-like women who stay covered in black, sweaty bourkhas.”
I think as a military spouse grasping the idea of submission and a chain of command is easier than it maybe it is for civilians. My husband has people who are above him and he must obey them. Even if his Chief/OIC/XPO or whoever he is directly under at the time is a bumbling idiot and has no clue what he’s talking about, my husband must submit and obey his orders. Many times my hubby could possibly be doing a better job, or knows more about the subject at hand, but the deal is that the boss is the boss, and in the military that is highly respected.
We are all under someone, somewhere. We have to obey the law, the government, our employers, etc. etc. No matter how much you reject authority it’s all around. Our world revolves on it because it works. I highly doubt many of you are anarchists and yet women can’t seem to fathom what would work in a successful military, company, country, etc. just might need to be applied in the home as well. Even the Trinity has a chain of command for crying out loud!!!! Look at this verse:
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God” I Cor. 11:3
Would any of us claim that Jesus is inferior to God? Of course not?! But he submitted to God’s will. We are created equally before God but we are to submit to our husband’s because it’s God’s design, His plan, and we’re really just following His own pattern by doing so!
I agree that couples should discuss things together, that both should have a say in big decisions, etc. This has been the refrain of many of comments lately. However in my marriage, and I’m sure most marriages, there will be times when you just don’t agree. We’re human and bound to have different opinions from time to time, about things large or small. I’ve given the example of deciding where to live that recently came up in my own marriage, and just yesterday yet another thing came up. Hubby wanted us to change cell providers and I thought we should stay with who we were currently with. We had a nice, civilized discussion, each explaining their points and listening to the other persons. When all was said and done though, I hadn’t convinced him and he hadn’t convinced me. So what happened? I deferred to his opinion as the head of this household and we now have new phones and a new carrier. Was I right or he? Only time will tell but I did what I was supposed to do and we can both be happy with the decision because of that.
So I hope that explains more of where I’m coming from as I do this study. That being said I do realize that the vast majority of women today would still disagree with me and my above said opinion. I don’t expect to change the culture we live in or the opinions many have formed. I know Christian women who I believe truly do love the Lord who stand in total opposition to this book and also the idea of submission. So I will now give a “full disclaimer” and if you feel like any of these fit you, feel free not to read these posts! As stated before, although I am fine with discussing topics, and also all the comments I’ve gotten have been fine and nice, the whole purpose is not to change your mind if you don’t agree, and I can absolutely guarantee you will not change mine. So…
If you have a soul-mate for a hubby, you never disagree on anything, and you already have a gloriously happy marriage
If you cringe at the word Submisson and don’t want to try to learn a new take on it
If you don’t like to be told that you’re responsible for your action regardless of what your husband does or does not do
then I can pretty much assure you that reading the book and possibly even my posts will not benefit you and probably just make you mad, lol!!!!
And if the above fit you I’d really recommend the book For Women Only
. It’s also a super great
relationship book, but not controversial 😉
As always, feel free to comment, I love feedback! 🙂 I’d love to hear if any of the girls who originally wanted to participate in the study are still reading these posts?? If so, speak up!!! Let me know what you think, what you’ve learned!