“For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh” Luke 6:45b
Your reactions really do define you. Although you might talk a good talk most of the time, it’s how you react in moments when your hubby shows up with a list of places you don’t want to move that show your real mindset and the content of your heart. In order to change your reactions, you need to change your thoughts.
This chapter is very short, but very powerful. The following two sentences from it were a huge conviction to me last year during the period of time hubby was considering hopping back into the Coast Guard. I was deeply struggling with the idea and fighting against it until God convicted me about it, partly using this:
“She was not created to choose her husband’s vocation, nor to choose his or her lifestyle. She was created by God to be her husband’s helper.”
“You are created to be your husband’s helper, not his conscience, not his vocation director, and certainly not his critic.”
Oh how I fought against those sentences!!! I came back with every argument you might imagine, such as,
“Well it’s MY life too, don’t I have a right to live it how I think we should?”
“But I don’t WANT to be a military spouse anymore! I want to stay in Wyoming!”
“What if he’s making the wrong decision? Am I just supposed to sit by and deal with the consequences?”
And although many of you might even agree with what I said and tell me I had every right to believe/think that, I was very, very wrong in my mindset. Thankfully I was able to see this and just hand it over to God, do a lot of praying, and trust that He and my hubby would do what was best for our family.
Now over a year later I can see that hubby staying in/getting back in the Coast Guard really was the best possible thing that could have happened to our family. I can’t imagine still living in the apartment with a bunch of wild college boys while hubby was working at Wal*Mart full time, going to school full time, and I was expecting a baby even though we had no health insurance. Can we say nightmare?! I learned first hand that it’s just better to let go and change your mindset even if everything within you is screaming otherwise at the time. God, and most likely your hubby, really DO have your best intentions in mind!
As always, any comments, suggestions, insights are appreciated 🙂