I’ve always really enjoyed this chapter as well! I love the different stories she uses for examples, especially the one about the “purple flower girl”. This chapter relates a ton to the previous chapter, and goes directly with what I was saying about the fact that if you choose to think of your husband in the right way, over look his faults, and adore him he will do the same for you! I gave the example of my best friend to show that I’ve seen this in practice and it really does work!!!
“Your husband is not there to show you deference or to be your helper. It is NOT God’s will for your husband to reverence you…Our modern society has conditioned us to expect him to serve us. It hurts our feelings if he doesn’t do things that we feel he owes us, but that is not the plan.”
Oh I can just feel the hackles on the back of the feminists necks rising up at the above statement!!!
In our culture we’re taught that as women we’re to be pampered and waiting upon. That it’s our right to be showered with gifts and we should expect our man to grovel (all this from the same culture that claims that we are the same as men and strong and independent and don’t really need them…hmmm…funny how the refrain changes depending on what they’re pushing or trying to sell you at the moment) This attitude will do nothing but set you up for failure ladies! And how ironic it is that when you actually choose to put yourself last, choose to reverence and serve your husband as you should, well that’s when he begins to love you as he should and you just might end up getting showered and pampered! We are not to expect it first in order to show him reverence though!!!
This is another chapter where I’ve highlighted several portions, here they are:
“A man will allow his woman many, many faults as long as he knows that she thinks he is great. If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankful to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be grossly overweight, have terrible hair, not cook so well, be a little lazy and dumb, and not be one bit pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is wonderful, he will love her.”
“The very heart of reverence is extreme appreciation and profound thankfulness that this man, just as he is, has chosen to love me, just as I am.”
“To reverence a husband…is to believe that you are blessed for being loved by this wonderful man”
This week work on showing your husband daily that you think he is the most wonderful man ever. If you don’t think he is then make a list of things that you do like about him, there is bound to be at least one! Focus on that and how you can show him you appreciate and adore that about him. Feel free to report your findings after a week of reverencing your man like you should!