12 Days of Romance Challenge–Give The Gift Your Hubby *Really* Wants This Year!
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Ready or not we’re into that wonderful, stressful, crazy, fun time of year again! Last year I shared ideas on How To Keep Your Marriage Happy & Hot During the Most Draining Time of The Year so this year I wanted to follow that up but take a slightly different twist!
I don’t know about you, but my hubby is by far the hardest person to buy for on my list every year! It’s always a challenge since he never has a list of things he wants that I can get for him. Usually this means that I resort to going shopping with him and letting him pick out a fancy new electronic toy. I tell him “Merry Christmas” while we purchase it and we call it good for the year.
I’ve done that for the past several years, however. So this year I thought it would be fun to shake things up a bit. I came up with the idea to do a fun, romantic spin off the “12 Days of ____ Gifts” ideas. I’m so happy with how it turned out that I wanted to share it with you, since I think it is perfect for every couple. I’m sharing ideas for each day so that you can take them and personalize this into the best gift for your husband, ever, and it will also result in a better relationship for both of you!
The best part of this is that there is nothing big, crazy, time consuming, or expensive. I know how crazy the holiday season is and this is something that will work into your schedule and budget no matter who you are! To make things even easier you can switch the order of the days around to fit your schedule. Also several of the days involve buying (small) items for both you and your husband, so if you want you can do that on the days listed or you can buy everything at once during your next Walmart trip and then you can “reveal” it as you do each day. Yes, everything on the list can be bought conveniently at Walmart for great prices which is a huge bonus if you’re a busy, crazy mom like I am!
Day 1 — Pretty Pajamas Challenge
When the cold weather rolls in nothing is quite so comfy to wear to bed as a huge t-shirt, fuzzy sweatpants, and fuzzy socks. It may be that you’re more the buttoned up flannel jammies kind of gal. Whatever your favorite lounging gear is, chances are it completely disguises the fact that you are, in fact, a woman somewhere underneath there. I think it’s totally fine wearing this oh-so-comfy gear to bed sometimes, but, let’s be honest, it screams “I’m cold and exhausted and I want sleep” pretty loudly to your hubby more than anything else. So just for the next 12 days commit to wearing something attractive to bed at night! You know your husband’s tastes best, or if you don’t then it’s a great time to ask! Some guys like a pretty nightie while others actually love to see their wife in a tank top and pj bottoms. You can either dig it out from the bottom of your drawer or if you don’t have any pretty pajamas this is a great time to gift yourself and your hubby by going and picking out some that are both comfortable and attractive.
Day 2 — Remember Falling In Love
No doubt you have stashed somewhere all the old love notes and photos from when you and your husband started dating, got engaged, and all that wonderful top-of-the-world-in-love stage in between. I have a “hubby album” that I keep all our old notes and photos in. If you’re in the slightly-younger-than-me Millennial range maybe you have a bunch of emails or Facebook messages and photo albums with these things in them. No matter where they’re stored it’s time to dig them back out and re-read and remember those days today! It will help you remember who you both were back then, how and why you fell in love with each other, and helps you to see how far you’ve come as a couple and as individuals. This is all a great way to help those feelings return and give you a renewed perspective in your relationship!
Day 3 — New Undergarments
It’s far too easy to wear the same old things you’ve had for awhile, or resort to the more-comfy-less-flattering options in this department as well! Today go out and purchase yourself some new, flattering, and comfortable undergarments for both you and your husband that make you look amazing!
Day 4 — Seek Great Advice and Ideas
A great relationship requires continual commitment and work. One of my favorite ways to make sure that I’m actively doing this is by finding and keeping up with great marriage resources. There are a ton of amazing books, blogs, and videos available today that will inspire, encourage, and educate you. Obviously you already know this, since you’re reading this right now! Today take some time to re-read or find a great marriage book, catch up or discover some great marriage blogs, or take the time to watch some great relationship videos on YouTube.
Not sure where to start? I cover some of my favorite resources in my 5 Tips for A Happy Marriage post. Here are also some fun and very quick videos that lead perfectly into my next day’s idea, so take just a few minutes to watch the ones that fit your relationship stage the best now:
- Intimacy Tips For New Parents
- Intimacy Tips for Busy Parents
- Intimacy Tips for Getting Closer Emotionally
Day 5 — Enhance Intimacy
A 12 Day Romantic Challenge would be a bit lame, without, well, romance!!! So today I want you to focus on your making your intimate moments even more amazing. Hopefully yesterday’s “homework” helped you get inspired, and today you can make the most of that by playfully suggesting something to your hubby that he’s sure to accept. Not sure where to start? Try leaving K-Y® Yours+Mine® Couples Lubricants® somewhere discreet but surprising. Maybe in his gym bag, in his underwear drawer, or tucked onto his side of the bed. Include a cute little note that says You+Me+This? Tonight? then draw cutesy little fireworks and hearts all over. Trust me, he’ll love this gift! Even better there’s a great $2 off one K-Y® product coupon available at Walmart that you can use to pick it up! You’ll find it easily in the family planning section of your pharmacy.
Day 6 — Learn How They Love to Be Loved
We all give and receive love in different kinds of ways. You might feel loved the most when your partner does something for you that takes something off your very full workload. Since this is how you feel the most loved, it would make sense that you think that he feels the same. Chances are, however, that while he might appreciate you doing that, he feels the most loved when you just take an entire evening to spend time with him and devote your attention to him. Not knowing what makes your spouse feel loved, while thinking you’re showing your love to them in many ways could really damage your relationship. Take a little time to stop and think about the things they most often ask for or complain about in your relationship. Figuring out their love language might be a huge light-bulb moment in your relationship, or it just might help you tweak things to show them how much they really are loved in a way they’ll most appreciate.
Day 7 — Massage
Nothing feels quite so relaxing as getting a great massage! If you have the time and money you might splurge for a couples massage at a local spa. If you don’t have this in your schedule or budget, however, don’t worry! It can be an even better gift to give each other a nice, relaxing massage! Put the kids in bed a little early or turn off your phones and computers and devote the evening to making each other feel pampered!
Day 8 — Personality
Just like we all have different ways we love, we also all have different, specific personality types. As you have already figured out, opposites do often attract, but while that can mean chemistry at first it can turn into conflict in the long run. Figuring out what your personality types are and learning a little bit more about them can be helpful. For me it’s easy to understand people when I know how they feel and where they’re coming from, so doing a personality test for both me and my husband and looking up information on our different types was as fun as it was insightful! Try searching “personality test” and see what you come up with. You might be surprised just how alike or different you are, and it’s a great way to find things about how your spouse thinks and works that you never knew before.
Day 9 — Get a Mini-Makeover
It’s hard to act romantic when you feel like you don’t look your best. Feeling attractive, however, gets hard during certain stages of life like when you’re super busy or especially if you’re a new or busy mom. Today take time to give yourself a little pick me up. Go get your hair cut, dyed, try a new makeup tutorial you’ve had pinned for ages, give yourself a manicure, or go shopping for a great new wrap dress. You know what makes you feel like you look beautiful, and you also know what will make your hubby look at you and say “wow”! Take a little time and energy today and investing in your looks will leave you both with a smile!
Day 10 — Discover Changes in Each Other
After you’ve been with someone for 5, 10, or 15 years it’s easy to think you know absolutely everything there is to know about them. It’s a good chance that you might know them better than anyone else on earth, after all! However, as people we’re constantly growing and changing, so what rang true for your spouse 3 years ago might be completely different today. Find some fun date night questions online and print them off and ask them to each other. A great list to use is this one which has unique questions and situations that you probably have never thought to discuss with each other before.
Day 11 — Date Night
This might be a little less unique, but they’re important for a reason! Again this can be any kind of a date. You can get a sitter and go out, or you can curl up in bed and watch your favorite series while munching a favorite treat. The point is just to carve out some time where it’s just the two of you together and you’re focused on each other and having a fun time. Search “free date ideas” to come up with a huge list of fun and easy things to do together!
Day 12 — Commitment
You made it! Hopefully over the past 12 days you’ve had an amazing and wonderful time as a couple and are coming away refreshed and excited with the sparks back in your relationship. Now is the time to make a commitment to each other. While it would be impractical to keep this up forever, right now take each of these steps and commit to re-do it, one step per month, over the next year. Mark out your calendar online to give you a reminder at the beginning, middle, or end of each month with the item to focus on for that month and then do them! This way this gift will keep on giving all year long, and your relationship will thank you for that!
There are my ideas for 12 Days of Romance. Did I forget anything that would be extra amazing for one of these days, or do you have another idea? Leave me a comment and let me know! Also don’t forget to go print out your $2 off one K-Y® product coupon coupon!