Month: July 2017

British Soccer Camp Review

British Soccer Camp Review

British Soccer Camp Review What seems like it was just yesterday I shared with you about Why It’s Better to Do Sports In The Summer. Our camp week has now come and gone, and as it was our very first experience with British Soccer Camp […]

How To Tackle Your Wellness Journey and Stick With It This Time

How To Tackle Your Wellness Journey and Stick With It This Time

This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. #NeuroGymFit #CollectiveBias When I stepped onto the scale and she read out the number I thought it must be broken. There was simply no way, no way that […]

Why I Require My Kids to Share a Room

Why I Require My Kids to Share a Room

 

Let’s face it. Sibling relationships are complicated.  Two (or more) little imperfect humans are placed into one family, each with his or her own blend of personality, habits, desires, frustrations, jealousies, and quirks.  So it’s no surprise that kids spend a crazy amount of time arguing, yelling, hitting, name-calling, and tattling.  Everyone knows that some sibling rivalry is to be expected in families with multiple kids.  When iron sharpens iron, sparks fly.  But I’ve come to realize that brothers and sisters can actually be friends.  That’s right, friends.  With each other.

When my youngest was a baby, I put my other two kids (who were 5 and 3) into one room simply out of necessity.  The baby needed naps during the day and still woke up several times a night, so for the sake of everyone’s sleep she needed to be in a room by herself.  So we doubtfully put her big sister and brother together, wondering how long this arrangement would last.  They had always had their fair share of sibling rivalry.  One was loud and the other liked peace and quiet.  One liked to spread out Legos EVERYWHERE while the other needed space for dolls and reading and creative pursuits.  One was an early riser and the other a night owl.  Were we crazy to put them together?

Initially things were a bit rough. But soon they surprised us by starting to get along better.  They came up with games and activities that were fun for both of them.  They shared their toys more freely.  Every night they listened to audio books together.   They started to actually enjoy being together.  

There were still plenty of disagreements and frustrations, but they had learned to work most things out.  To consider each other’s feelings and preferences instead of just thinking of their own wishes.  To take turns choosing what to play or what book to listen to at bedtime.  To be quiet when the other was asleep.  They were learning to live together in (relative) harmony because they had to.  When we took a two-month trip to see my husband’s family, they were inseparable.  They wanted to sit together on every plane, bus, and train.  They told us they were travel buddies and couldn’t be separated.  They treated each other like friends.

As I marveled at their newfound friendship, I thought back to my own childhood.  I was the oldest of four and we lived in a 3-bedroom house the whole time I was growing up, so my sister and I shared a room until I got married and moved out (a bit extreme, I know).  I often resented having to share with her, but there were so many nights we stayed up talking and laughing and connecting.  We would have missed out on all of those conversations if we were in separate rooms.  We both learned to live with each other’s quirks, habits, messes…things we would eventually have to learn when we got married.  Today my sister is one of my absolute favorite people in the world.  As much as I wanted my own room back then, I’m so thankful that I never got it because I would have missed out on so many blessings if I had.

So when we moved to a new house this summer, it seemed like it was time for our youngest to have the blessing of sharing a room with someone.  We gave our oldest daughter, who is now 10, her own room for the first time in years, and put the other two, who are 7 and 4, in a room together.  Several family members and friends were skeptical of this decision, and a couple of them genuinely tried to talk me out of it because my two youngest have always been at odds.  They are both strong-willed, emotional, dramatic, and really good at pushing each other’s buttons.   But we decided to give it a try anyway.  And I’m so glad we did!

They still fight like all brothers and sisters. We still have days that make me want to separate them so I don’t have to listen to any more arguing. But in the few weeks we’ve lived in the new house, my 7-year-old son has let his sister choose the audio book almost every night.  For him this is huge.  He has kept his Lego mess confined to one rug.  He brings her water at night when her cup is empty.  And she serves her brother in so many small ways.  She puts away his laundry so he won’t have to.  She surprises him by making his bed.  She encourages him when he gets frustrated or disappointed.

I know being room-mates won’t make them into selfless angels, but my hope is that it will start a bond between them that will last into adulthood.  Learning to live together in harmony is such a valuable gift I can give them, even though they may not see it that way right now.  When the time comes for them to have their own rooms, I hope they will go looking for each other because they want to be together.

 

Save Money For Back To School With Groupon

Save Money For Back To School With Groupon

When I think Groupon I usually think of huge discounts on amazing experiences. But that’s not all that Groupon is amazing for! Did you know that Groupon has over 9,000 retailers and over 70,000 deals?! With back to school barreling on us I’m trying to […]

Signs Your Credit Card Information Has Been Stolen

Signs Your Credit Card Information Has Been Stolen

Businesses are targets for credit card fraud. This criminal behavior causes major problems for owners and patrons, especially if customer financial data is stolen. Because of this threat, Merchant Account Solutions offers point-of-sale systems that have advanced security features. If you are victimized, there are […]

How to Choose Accommodations When You’re Traveling With Kids

How to Choose Accommodations When You’re Traveling With Kids

Traveling with kids can be a nightmare if your accommodations don’t accommodate them. Lots of hotels simply aren’t kid-friendly. The secret to a fun family vacation is ensuring the kids have a good time too; otherwise, you’re going to be subjected complaints and negative attitudes. The following is a guide to help you choose accommodations that your kids will love so much they’ll be raving about the fun they had for years to come.

Kid-Friendly Hotels in Adult Cities

Some destinations are more fun for adults than kids. For example, Hollywood. If you’re not riding rides at Universal Studios Hollywood, there’s a chance your kids are going to be bored. But, family friendly hotels do exist. A fun hotel can cheer a kid up and give them something to look forward to. The best boutique hotels in West Hollywood are the most kid-friendly, such as Loews Hollywood Hotel which is located on the Walk of Fame and features a rooftop pool and lots of kids toys. Look for resorts, huge pools with water slides, and on-site arcades to accommodate kids in adult-friendly destinations.

Is It Near the Beach?

It’s hard to find an ocean-front hotel that doesn’t cost a fortune, but kids love to play in the sand don’t they? They also love to boogie board, swim, and splash. Instead of paying for a hotel, why not consider the benefits of a beach front home or condo rental. AirBnB is a great place to seek out waterfront property that fits in your budget. For added fun, seek out places that include watersports equipment, such as use of kayaks or snorkeling equipment. This will provide hours of fun for kids, but requires safety demonstrations beforehand.

Look for On-Site Restaurants

If your hotel has an on-site restaurant (and, it’s great if it does) call ahead to make sure they accommodate kids. Do they offer crayons and pages to color? Do they encourage kids to be themselves? Are there games to play and a menu that’s packed with the stuff they like to eat? Keeping kids full and having fun will ensure your vacation goes swimmingly, and a stuffy hotel restaurant won’t help with that at all.

It helps if the restaurant also serves a daily breakfast. Some will offer a free hot or continental breakfast; others will charge for breakfast. What you want to do and what you can afford is up to you; however, feeding kids bright and early will help them start the day with positive attitudes. All day long, they should be treated to nutritious and filling meals because it will help keep them happy while traveling.

Be Nearby Attractions

If your attractions aren’t already on-site, such as staying at an all-inclusive resort, make sure they’re nearby. Long walks or car rides aren’t going to bode well with your little ones. Of course, they can suck it up for one vacation, but if you’re looking to keep the trip on the sunny side, don’t expect them to always have a smile on their faces (especially on long journeys). They are almost guaranteed to complain about long trips, but will be pleasantly and happily surprised by nearby destinations. Look for rentals and hotels that are right by your favorite attractions or expect to be complained to.

iMom recommends that you identify what’s bothering a whiny kid. It’s likely a sour tummy or they’re too hot, or some other travel related reason. Then point out and challenge the attitude. Offer the kid some incentive to turn the attitude around, and the ride should go more swimmingly. You can basically use that method to solve any of your journey’s issues; coupled with kid-friendly accommodations it almost guarantees a happy vacation.

 

By Monique

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