Created To Be His Helpmeet ~ Chapter 11

“Proverbs 31 defines the virtuous woman. She is NOT a mousy, voiceless prude. She is confident, hardworking, creative, and resourceful.” pg 114
Amen to that! I’ve always loved Proverbs 31, except that I go into major conviction mode when I read it and go, “Ack, that’s not what I look like at all!” LoL. It’s a wonderful chapter to help model and mold your life after though as a Christian wife!!
So I must confess that weeks when I’ve majorly blown it in the “good wifey” arena I almost don’t want to do this study. It makes me feel like a hypocrite to be writing about how to improve your marriage and be a good submissive wifey when I can’t even manage to do it. I just have to keep reminding myself that those are the weeks I need to post about this the most because it’s when I need it the most! This week I managed to bungle stuff up about 3 days inΒ a row, one big Oops after another. I guess I just wanted to let you know that I’m definitely not super wife, I’m just a young wife who even 5 years into marriage still has so much to learn, including not to keep making the same silly mistakes over and over again!!!
One thing that always strikes me about this chapter is the emphasis on allowing your hubby to always have the lead, especially the spiritual leadership, in your family. As you can probably tell (lol) I have a very dominant, very outgoing, and yes…slightly controlling personality. I used to get in trouble all the time when I was younger for being “bossy”. Because of this I’ve always struggled with being submissive and allowing hubby to take the lead in all areas. The sin nature in me just wants to rip the leadership away and do it my way. This chapter is a constant reminder to me of just how wrong that really is! But as I certainly would hate to be labeled a “Jezebel” it’s something I need to continually work on!
As always, I welcome any thoughts, suggestions, questions, and comments! πŸ™‚


  1. Donna Perugini

    Nicole: Let me recommend a great book, The Control Freak by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott. It’s a very good book that I’ve read often and passed around a lot! It’s a real eye-opener!

  2. Luigi | UPrinting

    I love the honesty that reflects in this post. In my opinion, there’s nothing wrong with being dominant as long as you know when to raise the white flag. A super wife doesn’t mean you have to be a submissive wife. I mean, come on, women think, we have brains and I don’t think anyone should expect us to just keep quiet when we have something to say. It’s just really a matter of limiting yourself of what may be extreme.

  3. Heather

    I’d have to agree with Luigi. To me, I feel that a marriage isn’t about who is ‘in charge’. It’s a partnership, you are a team. My opinion is that both are equal partners in the marriage with equal say in what happens…you just have to talk through it all and decide what to do together based on what is best.

    I love reading your posts.

  4. dixie.maxx

    Well, if “Proverbs 31 defines the virtuous woman. She is NOT a mousy, voiceless prude. She is confident, hardworking, creative, and resourceful.” Then I think we can definately put you in the virtuous catagory.
    I don’t believe that God would condemn us for our deeds if we are truely working toward following his word. Look at the whole picture, the path we are taking, rather than one moment or day or week…or month πŸ™‚ If we strive to be good and virtuous and ask God to forgive our weaknesses, I believe we’re on the right track. A good wife supports her husband, as I’m sure you do.

    Marriages are so different now than they were before. Men do not always wish to lead and no amount of pushing can make them.

  5. **Nicole**

    Thanks for the comments everyone πŸ™‚

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